JUST KISS AND MAKE UP
I came across this video on YouTube today by Tatia Pilieva called ‘FIRST KISS’ where they asked twenty strangers to kiss for the first time….
The first thought that came to mind was:
Give me a kiss, and to that kiss a score; Then to that twenty, add a hundred more; A thousand to that hundred; so kiss on, To make that thousand up a million; Treble that million, and when that is done, Let’s kiss afresh, as when we first begun. 😀
Robert Herrick, “To Anthea (III)
Towards the end of the video, how everyone behaved made me realise that it’s the simple things that bring out the innocence and the beauty in all of us. They allow us to overlook our own preset personalities that we have become too accustomed to and instead be passionate, vulnerable and ‘real’. We fuss and fight with each other and though it is the nature of life and usual as well as healthy in a relationship, I think that:
“If your only tool is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail”.
When it comes to more familiar couples having disagreements, I find that it can be hard to rise above the anger. In addition, sometimes some fights and issues are so trivial but your partner is so engulfed and engrossed (probably channeling some past things that you did wrong and didn’t realise) that it becomes a ‘mountain out of a molehill’ situation (making the problem bigger than it is).
A good example is, something as silly as forgetting to buy milk could end up in silent tension.However, you know you just temporarily hate him/her because she/he may have done something to get you really riled up at that moment or it may have accumulated. Most of the time, when on the disseminating end, you may have ended up feeling extremely justified to be that mad when really in most cases you aren’t quite sure why and if you should be. In all this mess:
THE SIMPLE SOLUTION = JUST KISS AND MAKE UP!
The trick is however to do so as sincerely as possible and if your spouse is truly reasonable or had nothing much to grumble about after a couple of kisses, apologies and nose rubs they will have forgotten what they were mad about. Just remember, don’t over think it always try to make it as honest as the ‘FIRST KISS.’
PS: This applies to minor disagreements between two people already in love ❤